Several years ago, I was in a relationship with a fantastic person. Now, enjoy the debauchery… Enter Neil Strauss How have you navigated the above questions?ĪND ONE IMPORTANT NOTE (added after much confusion): The below is written by Neil Strauss! It covers his adventures, not mine. MY SELFISH REQUEST: Please share in the comments what has worked for you! I’m a simple animal living in a confusing world. It’s written from the perspective of a male, of course, but many women grapple with similar questions. This post includes two of my favorite stories from his experiments, adapted and embellished for this blog. Neil has spent the last six years attempting to answer these questions, and the result is a brand-new book called The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships. – What if you could get a hall pass every once in a while? – Would life be better if you could sleep with anyone you liked at any time? – If you’re a driven type-A personality, can you really have both with one person? – Should you choose excitement over intimacy? – Are humans really designed for monogamy? Is it possible or even desirable? But at night over drinks, we still discuss what two guys usually discuss: women. On this blog and in the podcast, he and I have talked about kickstarting creativity and his genius writing process. Not surprisingly, Neil went on a tear of sexual hedonism after his transformation, and many men read his book hoping for the same. In that book, he enters a subculture of pick-up artists as a hopeless nerd and comes out able to conjure threesomes on demand. He’s a seven-time New York Times bestselling author, arguably best known for The Game. This is where Neil Strauss often enters the picture.

So, what the hell is a guy to do? There is reality as we’d like it to be, and then there is reality. I love intimacy, but my biology craves novelty… Looking inward before lashing outward is good for the world.Īs some of you know, I’ve been conflicted about monogamy for a long time. Lifestyle design is, after all, about a lot more than work.Īnd if anything below shocks or appalls you, please ask yourself: why does this make me so uncomfortable? Dig into the discomfort. For the rest of you, I’m hoping the below is hilarious and somehow helpful. If you’re chomping at the bit to express mock outrage, please check this out instead. It’s very graphic, definitely not suitable for work (NSFW), and guaranteed to offend most of you. In this post, we’ll look two alternatives to monogamy: an “anything goes” sex club and living with three lovers at once. “Those who are easily shocked should be shocked more often.” – Mae West

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